Are you asking the right questions?

Naveennarayanan
3 min readNov 11, 2020

A favourite book of mine, ‘Getting to Yes’ was about the Art of Negotiations, which clearly showed that kids are the best in negotiations because they don’t have fear to ask questions. No sacred cows or fear of looking foolish for asking something absurd.

This is one of the most fascinating things about children; always questioning, always wondering. Yet somehow, we tend to shed this child-like curiosity as the years pass by, all too often forgetting to pause and contemplate the deeper questions in life.

We ask about 8–10billion queries on Google everyday but our curiosity is limited to the flavour of the day — movies, politics, bitcoin or lives of others. The top 10 searches have nothing meaningful, philosophical or spiritual.

Colourful, Curious Questions

But how did we get here? Do you have questions like ‘What is my role in this world’, ‘who am I’, ‘what am I’

Question Without Fear

Fear is the key. Fearless children will go as far as to question God, yet as adults, we begin to worry about the repercussions including what others would think of us.

Every scripture asks us to question, contemplate, experiment and then accept. A canonical text by itself doesn’t ask for blind faith, humans interpret it that way.

Countless Forms of Contemplation

If curiosity and inquisitiveness are the roots of questioning, contemplation is the earth that nourishes them. Without making the time to pause in deep, reflective thought, we will never get much further.

I believe the process of contemplation after a point is always in solitude. While early starts to contemplation may start with prayer or yoga, meditation is where deeper answers like.

The Right Reasons

Contemplative practices create space in the mind, away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. But in order to ask worthwhile questions, there is another important facet to consider: intention. We must ask the deeper questions for the right reasons; ask because we actually want to use the answer to guide our life in some way.

Take Inspiration From the Child You Once Were

Don’t be afraid to ask questions in unusual places, even the difficult ones. Is there life after death? Are we alone in the universe? Does God exist? Incite debate within your own mind.

It’s worth stepping outside your comfort zone to discover which form of contemplation works best for you: it’s likely you will be surprised. Above all, I urge you to ask questions because you want to ask them, because you want to uncover wisdom and edge your way toward the absolute truth.

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Naveennarayanan

Author of Philosophy | Traveler | Girl Child Education Activist | @seenaveennarayanan on FB | Learner | India